Story of How we met!
Myce is online content creator. She once received a comment that tells her to reach via DM message regarding a video idea related to the boycott movement of their country. Myce was very excited to get to know her new youtuber friend! â days passed, they started talking via discord. Myce started checking het notifics more often, to see if there is more from Last...
She was in Antown by then and despite the fact that he clearly stated he was not looking for anything as if a relationship, Myce could not wait to go back and meet Last in Icity. When she turned back to her parents house and was feeling very nervous and quite sad, and she SH\d herself, She called him and they talked. He was very calming. She clearly stated how she was dying to meet in real life, and even the fact that she had a slight crush.
The other day, they met in train station that had just became a shopping mall. Myce used to live by the Station so she boycotted the mall, and posted content regarding this. Last took the ferry and than the local train to meet her. Myce even made another video in the train station when she was waiting Last. And thanks to Last's chance, her video got over 700 thousand views on Instagram and over a million in twitter. Maybe what made the video so popular was Myce's excitement which could be seen from her eyes and mimics, as although she did not know yet, she was just about to meet the love of her life.
When they met IRL, they did not know to hug or to hold hands.it was very cute.
They then went to Myce's favorite park and drank some beer. Apparently, one beer is useless and brings nothing other than a terrible headache. As Myce was suffering from migraines, and did bad things at morning which worsened her migraine condition because no painkillers would work, she had Last as her medicine any way.
They also fed stray animals with Starbucks dumpsters and drank Matcha.Matcha shop waitress was really kind, she offered a free drink to Last, who apparently hated Matcha. However last refused. they charged their batteries, but one of the kindest gestures of Last was charging his powerbank instead of his phone. When Myce asked the reason, last said that with the powerbank both could use it.
They went out, and found some rocks by the Mbeach. Inside this rock cave, they had privacy, a lovely summer night breeze, sounds of the waves hitting the rocks, and the sea view. She could just just die there. It was so romantic.
They spent the whole night together, looking for a pharmacy for painkillers, taking long walks in parks and the long shore, it was just so cute I sort of wish there were records of that. No pictures taken that night, not at all. Myce was too embarresed to ask for an evidence of the most romantic night possible on earth!
Problems, Apologies and Solutions
All Myce's, Owning Them One by One, no âbut you also didâŚâ
1) Drama Queeny and Over Conservative Weirdo Mode
After sharing lots with strangers, and people who do not value me at all, I stupidly abstain from some form of a contact. I fear that if you ever saw me through a desire, youâd stop seeing the rest of me. I actually know that isnât true, yet I still acted like it was. Asking you to delete my pictures, drawing invisible lines, panicking when you looked at me with affection and you wanted something from me â all of that came from fear, not principle.
The truth is, I kept confusing protection with avoidance.
I thought the less I shared, the safer Iâd be.What really happened was secretly -maybe explicitly loosing you- when I built a wall between us and call it âboundaries,â when it was just insecurity about myself.
What Iâll do:
- I can set limits without treating your desire as danger.
- Be transparent instead of agressive: if I feel unsafe, I explain why, instead of treating you bad or withdrawing. And I will expect understanding.
- Work on me trusting your respect instead of testing you all time.
- It is very hard but I will try to learn that affection doesnât erase dignity â and it even deepens when shared consciously, I wrote this one without actually believing I ever will and I do not think I will heal at once. But please give me some time.
And that is very, very unfair. After me hanging out with everyone and spreading my body as a common space, why be conservative to you only when things have a meaning. And another unfair thing is that I desired you in such intimate way way more often than you desired me, I started everything, had stupid requests and even blamed you for serving me. I donât want to punish you for loving me or desiring me, or make you prove over and over that youâre gentle and you love me for more than you love my body or our intimacy. You wanted intimicy because you loved me. Right now you dont love me as well but there are still ruins of this lovely memories, that keep the flames awake... I just want to grow into someone who can accept your desires without flincing and still keep the parts of me that need quiet and patience. That balance is the homework I owe for both of us.
2) New Trend: Performative Female
I jump into a 15-minute cosplay of the worldâs best partner, expecting
applause for the trailer of a perfect relationship instead of making a real effort to keep a sustainable relationship.. I push
activities and ask you some stupid details just to look like a caring partner, then get upset when reality doesnât match my american perfect couple Lana del rey fantasy.
What Iâll do:
- Only offer things I can sustain.
- Replace grand movements and big gestures with small, consistent actions.
- Say âI want to do this for youâ when itâs true and not to earn love points.
This point is later detailed in my letter in the link: Myce's apology
3) Crisis-Then-Apology Loop
I create a storm, then chase the calm after the post-war. Thatâs unfair and exhausting for you.
What Iâll do:
- âActually taking some time to think before reacting for real, not texting you when my feelings are elaborating. I will put phone down 30â60 min, walk, breathe.
- Maybe I can take a video instead of figting to calm myself down because it keeps me calm and makes me happy. I can love giving myself to work when I have jealosy crisis.
- No late-night angry talks and throwing trips. Sleep first, speak clear.
- Express emotions in long paragraphs or email form than texting quickly can help because I get to think longer when writing them
4) Apology as a Shortcut without Understanding
I tried to gain your trust with words, not habits. I did not even listen to you and did not try to change myself at all. I just apologized to save the day, not built anything on it..
What Iâll do:
- After every apology show one observable behavior Iâll repeat for 2 weeks. I will be careful not to make it in Performative Girlfriend tone.
- If I miss a corrected behavior, I say soâno excuses, just fix my behavior.
5) Attention Hunger & Validation Economy
I wanted to be âthe main character,â of the relationship so much and wanted so much when giving so less. I always graded what you offered instead of listening to your needs.
What Iâll do:
- I will give you appreciations more.
- I will demand less. I will not ask for applause.
- Celebrate small moments.
- I will not disturb the silence on discord.
Note: About body hair, I will not be flawless but hopefully after laser traetment I will have less hair after all so you will not be annoyed and I will not to shave every week on a regular basis *I become a farm when I shave regularly, believe it or not*. But with laser, we can meet somewhere where both will be happy. Because laser actually works! I am sorry for what I caused you.
6) I said âFix It Nowâ and not gave time for Your Healing
I tried to go back to week one, I needed to accept the fact that we cannot be the same people and re-live date 1 after so many things happened. We can be better, knowing eachother better, knowing eachothers needs better, making projects more. Having built things together. But we cannot have the first date again. In order to get better tho, I need to give from myself just like you did for me, making small changes on me when you want me to. And also, respecting your timeline.
Help isnât help if it ignores your actual needs.
What Iâll do:
- I might ask if you want support, solutions, or space and follow the answer.
- Accept ânot todayâ without counter-offers or guilt.
- Offer notes, small kindnesses, gifts with zero expectation of reply.
None of this asks anything from you. Itâs my promise to be someone who
doesnât confuse pressure with love.
7) Control & Scheduling Everything
I try to script the day: when we leave, sleep, eat, talkâthen I treat
deviation like betrayal. Thatâs not love; thatâs micromanagement. That is a disease. That's my OCD.
What Iâll do:
- Value you more than I value strangers, my friends, family and people who manipulate me.
- Baskalarina ayip olmasin diye sana kabalik yapmayi birakmak.
- Find happiness in being together, not finishing a bucket list.